5.26.2015

The Hardest Part of Pregnancy {for me}

Absolutely nothing brings me more joy than being a mom. Nothing. But, if I'm being totally honest, I really struggle with being pregnant. Not as in I have trouble getting pregnant, rather I struggle with being pregnant because I don't enjoy being pregnant. There. I said it. It's out.

So many ladies I know, both in real life and through blogs, gush about how much they adore this time. These sweet mommas go on about how they love everything about being pregnant and how they don't want the nine months to ever end. Secretly, I'm a wee bit jealous of their love of pregnancy.

Then there's me.

Sweet Lord. Can we please just fast forward to the end, to the part where I'm holding a baby in my arms and not my uterus? 

Of course there are some truly magical moments that can only be experienced while with child. The movements and hiccups are easily the best. For me though, pregnancy just isn't fun. For me it's the farthest thing from rainbows and unicorns.

From the obvious reasons: no sushi, no wine, no soft cheeses, no lunch meat. There is the morning sickness. There are the mood swings. Hello, I'm female, I have plenty of those without all the added hormones. Don't get me started on how workouts and running are affected (I keep trying to explain to Scott that it just feels like the bottom is going to fall out of me - it's so glamorous, isn't it?). Followed that up with the discomfort, and the sleepless nights. And then there's the ever changing and expanding body which might be the toughest pill to swallow. 

Parenthood brings its own truck load of exhaustion, stress, worry, and even sacrifice. I really wish I could just skip past the whole pregnancy part and go straight to the momma'ing part.

Pregnancy is not my jam. Just ask Scott. He's already informed me that after M² arrives he will be more than happy to forever bid adieu to Pregnant DesirĂ©e.

It might sound harsh, probably even a bit insensitive. But, for me the hardest part of being pregnant is not loving being pregnant.

Tell me I'm not alone here. Any other mommas out there who love being a mom but didn't love being pregnant?

17 comments:

  1. oh I'm sure you aren't alone! I flip flopped between hating and loving. Being uncomfortable in one way or another all.the.time. Not my fave. The kicks? My fave. And p.s. my cousin hated being pregnant - she was at the end of hers while I was at the beginning so I was like oh man what did I get myself into!??!

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  2. Oh I know you aren't alone, lady. I have had a few friends that were so over being pregnant and I kind of worry that's going to be me. I don't want to gain weight, I don't want to give up foods and I don't want pain. Hmmm, I guess we can tell I'm not QUITE ready to get pregnant, haha. But I hope one day I do get to experience pregnancy and bring a healthy child into the world.

    Thanks for your honest post, lady!

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  3. Same. Why I'm not pregnant yet.

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  4. You are not alone. I adored being pregnant with H and W (after the morning sickness was done), but with this past pregnancy, I was like, this sucks and I don't want to do it again. I was miserable. And I tried not to complain, but I definitely did. Hang in there, lady!

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  5. I hated being pregnant the second time. I was already tired chasing a 2 year old, and then dealing with pregnancy fatigue made it worse. I was hot, sore, and gagging every 2 hours. I was definitely ready for delivery day.

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  6. You're definitely not alone! I LOVE being a mama, it's who I am... but being pregnant?! Hated.it. I know it's only going to get more uncomfortable from here on out for you... hoping the days pass quickly!

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  7. I TOTALLY agree with everything you said!!! Couldn't have said it better myself! The end is near!!!

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  8. Right there with you... and then some! Hopefully I can adopt someday soon... Patrick refuses to let me be pregnant again and as much as a hate that, I know that he is right (my body does NOT tolerate pregnancy on top of truely disliking being pregnant... I counted down the days every time and was glad to be done early... albeit a bit too early in Taryn's case) Hang in there! You know the end result is worth the torture now ;)

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  9. PICK ME, PICK ME!! Oh did I ever hate being pregnant. Or should I say my body hated being pregnant and that led to me hating my body and well, we were just one big cluster eff of hate. haha It makes me so happy to think I will never endure that misery again. although a teensy bit sad that I wont ever have a new baby again. Of course as I say that Ainsley is being the diva of the world so let me eat those words now!

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  10. This pregnancy has definitely been harder. I still am weird & like a lot of parts - but am also really excited to get my body back soon!!!! And don't be hard on yourself, I think it matters way more that you love being a mom then pregnant, right?!!!! ;)

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  11. I think the hardest part for me was after. Like the fact that nothing fit. I felt like I was finally in good(ish) shape (for me) before getting pregnant with Mason and then while I was pregnant, it was fine, but then after, especially when I had to go back to work and nothing fit, was when it was super hard. Like even my pregnancy work pants didn't fit because everything was... different. And even now, I am pretty close to my pre-pregnancy weight but things still don't fit like they used to. Oh these kids... I love mine but he did a number to my body!

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  12. You are definitely not alone! I didn't like being pregnant the first time, even though I didn't get much morning sickness. This time, I'm still not adoring it, but I'm more appreciative that I'm able to carry this little babe :) I am more than ready to meet this little one though- having a baby in your arms definitely beats being preggo. Although like you, I LOVE the kicks :)

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  13. Being pregnant is super hard on your body and definitely not easy! I think it's okay to acknowledge how hard it is :)

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  14. You are not alone friend. I love the movement but that is about it. I hate it. I feel SO out of control and I can't even imagine how crazy it would drive me not being able to hit the gym like I want too... NEED too! Mama goes crazy without her gym time. Mark that as reason #548 that we are done, lol.

    Your so close to the end friend. Praying the time would pass quickly so you can hold that sweet girl in your arms.

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  15. There are totally some not glamorous and not fun parts of being pregnant - totally!!! But, as you might remember, I do love being pregnant. I'm sorry you don't! 9 months is a long time to be miserable. :( Luckily you're more than half way thru, summer always flies and then you'll be holding baby girl. :)

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  16. I hated feeling nauseous the entire 1st trimester while teaching junior high students. Thankfully, in the entirety of my pregnancy, I only threw up once. And, I hated how big I felt the last few weeks, as well as teaching angsty-cabin-fevered preteens, with the unbearable heat in a broken AC classroom, and the stress of moving and Justin finding a job....so, I really didn't like the 1st or 3rd trimester, but I don't want to say I didn't enjoy being pregnant because I think every situation is different.

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  17. Girl I could have so written this post myself, and I think I might have done one similar. I am totally the same way. I feel awful saying that I don't enjoy being pregnant because I know a lot of women that would give anything to experience it, but I just do not enjoy it. I just never feel like myself and am not happy in my skin. You are not alone!

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